How EMDR has Changed my Life, and my Parenting
“I am so thankful that I found EMDR, it has truly changed my life and helped me to heal in a way I didn’t know I could.
One day when I was answering a question from a friend about my daughter’s birth, tears came to my eyes, like they always did, and I got all flushed and stirred up remembering that day and the days that followed and feeling again just how overwhelming it had all been. I then felt immediately embarrassed, because I was okay and my baby was ok so why the heck was I crying about it years later!?! Sure, it was a tough birth and she had some medical problems early on, but in the grand scheme of things we had been really fortunate.
So why did I feel so overwhelmed every time I talked about her birth or infancy?
My friend knew about this therapy called EMDR and told me straight up:
‘You don’t need to keep feeling this way, go do EMDR. It will help.’
I was skeptical, I had actually seen a therapist before, and felt like I’d already done what I could to get past this and most days I felt fine. It honestly hadn’t even occurred to me that I could feel differently until my friend encouraged me to give EMDR a try.
So, I found a therapist who was trained in EMDR, and she and I worked on calming down the intense memories I had about my daughter’s birth and about her early infancy. After just a few sessions I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of me.
I found myself enjoying my daughter more and the low level depression and exhaustion I’d just kind of accepted as my new normal lifted as well.
I had never realized that the pain I carried around with me about her birth had been a small, but significant barrier between us.
With that cleared away not only was I able to talk about her birth and feel calm and centered, I fell even more in love with her and felt my heart open to her in a way I didn’t expect. I’m even thinking about trying for another baby, which I never thought I’d want to do!
I just wanted to share my story of how EMDR has healed me. Hopefully my story might help another woman who had a tough birth, or someone who struggled with a hard childhood, or really anyone who is carrying something painful around in their heart that they are ready to lay down. I had no idea how much better I could feel, and I wish I’d known about this incredible treatment years ago.
Please feel free to share this with anyone you think it might help. My advice to them is: don’t wait, try EMDR. It really does work!”
– An EMDR client and mom of 2